If you've ever heard of the phrase
"You have to love yourself first
In order to love someone else,"
You either have to think it's
Right or wrong.
I've heard several opinions on both sides.
Wrong:
"Just because I don't love myself
Doesn't mean someone else won't
Love me."
Right:
"Self-confidence simply makes you
Into a stronger person."
I am one of the people who believes
That the saying is correct,
But for both the opinions already said.
Yes, you can find a partner
Who will love you.
And you will love them back.
With or without a high self-esteem,
Someone will love you for who you are.
Yes, self-confidence makes you bolder.
You can create an image for yourself
Without caring about other people's judgments.
You, too, can find someone who will love you.
"You have to love yourself first
In order to love someone else."
The quote...shouldn't end there.
It should go on to say,
"Because if that person ever
Stops loving you,
You won't forget to love yourself."
This, I think, is more accurate because
Heartbreak is unpredictable.
When you enter a relationship
Because you finally find
Someone who loves you just
For who you are,
When they build up your self-esteem
To make you feel like you are
A gift to oxygen and not the
Other way around,
When they are your only reminder
As to why you wake up every morning
With a smile on your face,
When they break your heart,
They can stop whispering
Confidence into your ear.
Not because it's no longer true,
But because sometimes people leave
And with them their lovely words.
There will be days when you will think
That they were the only ones that
Saw that strength, beauty,
Intellect, curiosity within you.
There will be times when you look
At yourself in the mirror
Wanting them to hug you from behind
To reassure you that you look amazing.
If they ever decide to stop
Telling you the truth everyday,
They will also walk over
The pieces you've become
To get to the door.
"You have to love yourself first
In order to love someone else.
Because if that person ever
Stops loving you,
You won't forget to love yourself...
For everything you are.
Warts and all."
Just because you love yourself
Doesn't mean you are perfect.
It's not easy to realize how great you are.
Most of us still compare ourselves
To photoshopped, unrealistic images.
Some disapprove their own timidness.
Some can count their regrets.
Some focus on their past.
If I had to start listing everything
I believe is wrong with me,
It would probably outnumber
The number of days that I thought
I loved him and that he may
Love me.
He was an unrequited love
And I'm glad it stayed that way
Because if he would had finally said it,
If he would have done something to
Bring us closer together,
I wouldn't have spent nights over thinking
Every detail about me.
"Is it because I look younger?
Is it because I'm short?
Is it because I'm curvy?
Is it because, when I laugh, I snort?"
After days of hating myself,
My angel of a best friend
Brought me back to reality.
After days of hating myself,
I actually started liking myself.
"Fuck yea, I look younger than my age.
I can score me some kid tickets.
Fuck yea, I'm short.
Just means I can sneak around easily.
Fuck yea, I'm curvy
Because these legs are meant to kick some ass.
Fuck yea, I snort when I laugh,
Because if it's funny, I deserve to laugh.
And fuck you, but also thank you for not realizing it
Before I did."
Because when you learn to value
Everything that you are,
Flaws and all,
And when love from someone else comes around,
You will know how to say hello,
You will know how to say
Goodbye if needed.
You will have a list of all your lovely traits,
And you can check them off one by one
As they recite each one
As if they were the original author.
And, hey, it's not bad if they add
A couple of their own, too.
